Office of the Prosecuting Attorney of Elkhart County

Domestic Violence

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Domestic violence effects an entire family. The abused spouse, the battering spouse, the children living in the home, and even extended families of both parties may sometimes feel the impact. Violence in homes sets the stage for other types of violence in our community. It is paramount that we recognize these crimes are just as dangerous, if not more so than street crimes. Homes should not be war zones, but rather an environment where children can thrive and families communicate in emotionally healthy ways.

Domestic violence has three distinct stages. These stages are commonly referred to as the cycle of violence. The first stage being a period of tension building. The battering partner becomes edgy and prone to negativity. Often times the abuser becomes very critical of the victim. During this phase the victim many times recognizes the tension and tries to find ways to smooth over difficult situations and find ways not to upset the battering partner and be compliant.

The second phase involves an actual violent outburst with physical violence or self-esteem shattering verbal attacks. The battering partner loses control physically and emotionally. This may last for a few minutes or hours. Victims in this situation are generally helpless and plead for the attacks to stop. Children are frightened and learn dangerous lessons that may be applied in their own future relationships. Many times this is the phase where the police or emergency medical providers become involved. This is the opportunity for law enforcement and the Office of the Prosecuting Attorney to make an impact. We can get involved along with the Victim Assistance Division and supportive community agencies to help victims cope with the situation they are faced with.

The third and final phase is referred to as the honeymoon period. A battering partner typically will show remorse for their actions and will go to any length to win the affections of the victim. This loving respite many times will include a period of calm, loving, contrite behavior. The battering partner fears that the victim may leave the relationship. The victim is often relieved the tension building stage and the violent episode is over. The victim now has a loving family back and many times is not willing to cooperate with law enforcement or prosecution. The Prosecutor’s Office maintains the standard that the State is prosecuting the abuser, not the victim. The decision to file charges is not up to the victim, but rather the prosecutor. In some cases, with good evidence and reliable witnesses we are able to proceed without the cooperation of the victim.

It is important for victims to realize that they must get help for their families. Abuse will not stop without intervention. By cooperating with the prosecutor’s office we can may times hold the offender accountable by sentencing them to participate in counseling and treatment groups for their problems. This is helpful for the entire family. Counseling is one of the best methods to reducing violence and eliminating fear in homes.

If you are a victim there are many agencies to assist you. The best place to start is by calling the Victim Assistance office at 574-523-2237. They can help you obtain protective orders, assist you in finding a safe place to stay, such as the women’s shelter, and even help you get information about free support groups for victims and children who are getting out of abusive relationships.

There are a number of dedicated professionals in our community who aid women and children of domestic violence. They are a phone call away. (574) 523-2237.

Warning Signs of Abuse

These support resources are available for victims of domestic violence:

Women's Shelter
Phone: 294-1811

The Elkhart County Women's Shelter provides a safe place for victims and children escaping violent households to live, including food and clothing. The Shelter is a nondiscriminatory agency that offers services free of charge to victims of family violence and other crimes. Shelter services include crisis intervention, a safe environment for victims and children, counseling and emotional support, a children's program and services to help transition out of an abusive environment.

Victim Assistance Intensive Services
Phone: 523-2237

The Victim Assistance Intensive Services Program offers services free of charge. The Center provides support groups for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Additional services include answering questions; accompanying victims to the hospital, police station or court; providing information for victims and abusers; and referrals to other support agencies.

Victims of family violence can thrive with help and support.